If You Couldn't Speak, How Far Out Would You Hang Yourself?

What happened in Chicago? Several weeks ago,confidence growing, and my learning curve
there was a conference held by an Internet marketingaccelerating.
group. Its name was Gateway to Wealth. The trip wasI found out Friday evening there was a private party
impressive and full of surprises.being held by the Wellman's and Ambrose for affiliates
To start with, I wanted the experience of not having aof their products. I wrote a note to Alicia that I wanted
voice, depending on myself alone, and go to an eventto go. She said she would ask Keith and let me know.
with many other people. All strangers, but typical of aAn invitation was given and I was on my way to the
conference a person would attend. So I packed myAffiliate Party that evening. As it turned out, it was
clothes, gassed up the Jeep, and headed for theanother lucky moment in my life. Here's why: at the
Windy City! It is a 5 hour drive. About half way there Iparty, I was engaged in conversation with Alicia and
was imagining what to wear at the different events.Jeff Wellman. I had my trusty note pad and we were
You can see what I was concerned about. Then theretalking about webinars, which are meetings over the
was a realization, my clothes were hanging in myInternet. I said that I wanted to do a webinar. Jeff was
closet at home! No longer was I dressing for success.curious how that would be done since I had no voice.
In my mind for a second, I imagined people saying, "lookThat is when he learned about the software on my
at that poor guy, no voice, and no clothes." A Quickcomputer that would speak for me once the
analysis of what I was wearing, what was in my gripinformation is typed. He wanted to see how it worked,
and it looked to me like a pair of pants and a shirtso the next day we went up to my room and I
would get me through the weekend. Lesson # 1, don'tdemonstrated the SpeechPro. He was impressed.
depend on your clothes to get you through.What I did, was copy and paste one of the articles I
Thanks to Garmin, I arrive at a beautiful Renaissancehad written about the Gateway to Wealth conference.
Hotel near O'Hara Field. It was impressive. I parked myJeff liked what he heard. Those comments along with
Jeep and went in to register which was up anthe flexibility of the SpeechPro, has now turned into a
escalator and on the second floor. One of thoseWebinar that Jeff and I are going to schedule. The
bigger than life, spacious areas that is meant totopic will be overcoming challenges and excelling
impress and it did. I walked up to the registration area,because you decided that is what you want. Currently
pulled out my note pad, and confirmation information.we are in the process of working on the format,
Handed it to the clerk and waited to see what wascontent, and logistics of the Webinar that is going to be
next.held soon. Lesson #3 you never know when an
All smiles and ready to help, the clerk filled in theopportunity is going to show up.
appropriate information and gave me my "key." WhenIt is now Sunday and the last day of the conference. I
was the last time you got a key to your room?have met many people using my note pad primarily,
Anyhow, he said to me, this will open your door andrecognize by attendees, and talk to many of them.
you must insert it in the elevator for your floor buttonToday one of the featured speakers is Jeff. I knew he
to work. Plus, you were served breakfast and in thewas going to mention something about me because
evening hors d'oeuvres. I am thinking, these guys athe asked if I would mind if he did. He is up on stage,
Gateway really know how to negotiate a room forbuilding steam and momentum on the topic, take
$99. Up I went to room 1527, along with my porter andresponsibility and seize the opportunity that is available
luggage. He opened the door and I was speechlessto all of us, and then for about 5 minutes he talks
again. This room was fabulous. It was the size of 3about me not having a voice and being at the
rooms. It had three sitting areas, a king size bed, officeconference and we are going to do a webinar
area, a bar, wide-screen TV, three phones, how handytogether. It did surprise me with what he said, and then
for someone, huge bathroom, bathrobe, another TV,points me out in the crowd!
and decorated to fit the ambiance. This room wasAll eyes are on me for a second and I am thinking, this
impressive! I was thinking, "There has been a mistakeis surreal. Remember that my first concerns were
of major proportions." Now I need to tip the porter. Iwould I be able to communicate and relate to people.
am thinking, how much do I tip him if staying in a roomJeff starts to wrap up his talk of about 1 hour, and
like this? So I give him a $20...and ask for $15 inagain refers to me and my situation. The results were
change...I mean, let's be real, right?after the talk, I am now a recognized. Some want to
This is funny, no clothes, but a great room. Lesson #2,talk, many give you that, "so you are that guy" look.
if you are lucky, go with it.Another thing I noticed is that when eye contact is
Coincidentally one of the largest malls in the USA ismade and I was walking or standing talking to others,
near O'Hara, how handy. Directions from the conciergepeople would smile.
and I am on my way to enhance my wardrobe. AboutIt did make me feel good, and it also raised
a mile down the road, I see a Marshalls. Perfect forexpectations as well. If there was someone I wanted
me, and in I go. Out 10 minutes later with new pair ofto talk to, it was easier because of the recognition. I
pants, a polo shirt, and all for less than $50. Back to thewas also aware of the caution to engage in a
palatial room, pull out the ironing board and iron toconversation by some. It reminded me again, it is my
flatten the creases in my new digs. You should haveresponsibility to eliminate the barrier of communicating
seen that scene. This room has everything.and to help the person feel comfortable enough to
The next morning it is time to go and register for theengage in a conversation. It is important to keep in mind
conference. I had emailed the staff about my comingthat my situation is different, and folks don't always
and concerns and they had responded very positive. Iknow how to respond to different.
was expected at registration and met Alicia Bowers.The conference ended around 7 that evening. I was
She was invaluable the entire weekend. We hit it off,able to have a final conversations with all the leaders
and she introduced me to everyone that was a partand staff. The last surprise It was a new experience. I
of putting on the event. Jeff Wellman, Keith Wellman,gave a testimonial about a mastermind group session
and Gary Ambrose are among the most successfulthat was held Saturday night. I had my portable
marketers in the country; we met and had a chat. Thecommunicating device with me, typed out my
whole conversation initially was with note pad and pen.impression and gave my testimonial on camera.
It works amazingly well. People want to know whatLesson #4 Seize the moment. You cannot be afraid
you are saying and take the time to read your note,to try doing new things; do not put limitations on
respond and the conversation continues. Theyourself.
conversation is focused and you don't waste words,This turned out to be a terrific weekend. It was full of
but they are complete.surprises, challenges, and memories that will stay with
It was a good day with many conversations, myme for a long time. I am a blessed person.